Wasn't it on a comedy film where someone drops a quote of "there are no mistakes, things happen for us to be the person we need to be today", and I can't seem to get that out of my head. That was the movie THIS IS WAR, with Reese Witherspoon having the 'huge' problem whether or not picking Chris Pine or Tom Hardy--yeah, HUGE PROBLEM (insert sarcastic laugh here)
But, like in all things and movies that we try to escape to, there are lessons learned.
Why, you might ask is that so related to these two lovely people and human beings in my life? It's the exact reason of mixing mistakes with life lessons. As humans, we are genetically coded to look at the ugly, instead of the good. We feel the bad instead of the love. We cry often, even when something is meant to be happy. For some god-awful reason, we like the drama. Then, your world crashes down because the reality of having all the wrong cards at the wrong time actually happens, LIFE. That's also what we want to call, 'reality' or when 'shit-happens'--we like to say and label, "well, that's LIFE".
OK, like seriously?
Let's try to flip everthing backwards and head over our tippy toes. What if, we are genetically coded to only look at the good instead of the bad, the beauty instead of the evil, the happy instead of the harsh? How convenient.
See..this is what happened.
Somewhere in the middle of Kim and I packing up our boxes for our move back to the Midwest, I got a call. I think it was maybe the last few days of March, and my jaw dropped, my heart stopped, and I screamed when Sheila and Donna announced, "We're having a baby...I'm a few weeks pregnant"--it was along those lines, because trust me, after I heard "we're having a baby..." pretty much went radio-silent or some white noise in my head, and maybe the consistent yelling from my voice made me kinda deaf from my own mouth (yahthink?!) I jumped and yelled at Kim, who was maybe used to my constant screaming, but this time she was stunned, pretty much mirrored the exact jaw dropping. So, it was pretty shocking.
THIS IS A MIRACLE.
...then of course the crying, and over the phone knowing we were thousands of miles away. They were in Vegas, we were in West Palm Beach--I mean, it was tough and the struggle continued.
Eventually, we kept contact like we were a mile away or as if it was Naperville and we were still neighbors. Sheila is the birth mom, and Donna will be the stay at home mom, and we are so proud of them. But we were there with them, through times where we knew Sheila can't stand the Filipino-scented-food smell and made her sick and the times where Donna was so scared and making sure she did everything right for their baby-to-be...I mean, this was forreal. Altogether, it was amazingly adorable.
A few months back, we were totally in someone else's movie--trying to patch things up because we screwed up too much, we had no idea how to pick up the pieces. Now, we're here--witnessing the gift of life. And I could go through this over and over in my head, but not unless you're actually in this situation--we are all living miracles of the modern world caught up in this negativity that society makes us believe how we should be coded.
Give that middle finger to the guilt that you thought you owed the world. Literally, flip the world around and be happy. See the good instead of the bad, let go and stay awake for the moments that really matter. Recognize the blessings instead of the hardships, because for all we know...there are actually more reasons to smile about and look forward to, for this one--her name is Eena.